Born in Berkshire, England, the endearing and accomplished Gabrielle Anwar has over 45 film and television performances to her credit in both Europe and the States. In 2001 Gabrielle discovered the work of Emmi Pikler after the birth of her second child. Her three children were raised within the Pikler method, Gabrielle siting the insightful work as “life-changing.” In 2017 Gabrielle completed a biographic screenplay about Pikler’s life, and hopes to continue working with PLUSA to develop a documentary to bring this same enlightenment to parents globally. An actress, painter, writer and director, Gabrielle has emphatically enthused, “When children are raised without violence, even in it’s most subtle form, they learn not how to harm another, instead with this approach, they learn how to love. Herein lies the key to peace.”
Villő, 28 months, waits at the gate that divides the play space from the eating area. For several minutes, she spins the wooden latch of the gate her attention focused on her activity as Gabi, her caregiver, attends to breakfast with Abel. Finished with breakfast, Abel returns to the play area. Now it is time for Villő’s diaper change! Villő walks with Gabi to the washroom and steps up on the little stool in front of the dressing table. She lifts her left leg to the table, while balancing with her right foot on the stool, then reaches with both hands, finding stability in her three points of contact, before easily pulling herself to standing on the table. Leaning with her back against the rails that enclose two sides of the dressing table, Villő faces Gabi who is speaking softly to her. Gabi begins to unzip Villő’s pants, pausing as Villő helps push her pants partially down, Gabi then, gently slips them over the bulk of her diaper. Villő sits now for more stability, with one leg extended and the other bent her little fingers capably push her pants down to her ankles. Pushing the pants over her foot presents more challenge, so Gabi assists Villő easing the pant leg over Villő’s foot to the end of her toes. Now, Villő finishes her task, first pulling one pant leg over her toes and then the other. Villő stands bending her knees a little with her legs apart to aid Gabi as she carefully removes her poop-filled diaper. Ready with a basin of water, Gabi holds the basin as Villő puts her fingers in the water and touches the bar of soap. Speaking softly to Villő, Gabi meets her gaze with a smile. Taking the cloth from the water, Gabi gently cleans Villő with slow wiping movements, then, pauses. Standing sideways in a semi-squat position, Villő holds the dressing table rails with both hands for balance. She adjusts her posture in cooperation, first lifting one leg slightly and then the other as Gabi continues to clean her bottom. Now the washing is complete and Villő removes a wipe from the package and cleans her vulva with a few back and forth strokes, then, places the wipe in the garbage bag Gabi is holding ready. When Villő has completed her task, Gabi takes another wipe and gesturing she speaks to Villő who in response cooperatively lifts her leg so Gabi can continue with cleaning. Standing, Villő gazes through the window above the dressing table, observing the children playing in the room next door. Gabi follows Villő’s gaze and noticing her interest, pauses in the diapering process to narrate about the activity that has captured Villő’s attention. When Villő’s interest shifts back to Gabi, she offers two diapers for Villő to choose. Gabi holds them in front and in a moment of playfulness, Villő selects a diaper lifting her right leg and chooses with her toes. They both smile at this, their eyes meet before Villő turns to hold the rail with both hands as Gabi places the diaper, secures the tabs, then, snaps her onsey closed. Gabi rolls Villő’s pant leg into a doughnut like shape to guide and ease Villő’s dressing. Now Villő turns to face Gabi, still holding the rail with one hand for balance, she steps one foot and then the other through the doughnut hole of each pant leg. Gabi pauses, watching and waiting, as Villő pulls her pants up stopping at her diaper. This is difficult and requires Gabi’s assistance to ease it over the bulk of her diaper. Fully dressed and still standing, Villő lets go of the rail smiling widely and gazes at Gabi with warmth and delight, she extends her belly toward Gabi. Gabi leans toward Villő too, returning Villő’s smile and gaze before offering her hands, then, lifts her from the dressing table to the floor. It is time to wash hands! Villő walks to the little sink at child height, turns on the tap, and washes her hands rubbing them together under the running water. Gabi stands nearby, speaking to Villő, but does not interfere with Villő’s task. Reaching for her towel Villő dries her hands, then, finding the little loop on the towel, she hangs the towel on her peg. Her diapering completed she returns to play.
The beautiful vignette above is an actual observation of diapering at Lóczy, in Budapest Hungary at the Pikler Institute from a visit in June 2016. Ahead of its time, even in 1946, the Pikler Institute continues with a unique approach to childcare that exemplifies ideals independent of the status quo. For most, the practices described may seem different from the way diapering is typically conducted in most infant and toddler group care settings. The diapering routines at Lóczy offer a cultural context in which to re-envision most infant and toddler diapering practices. Importantly, the Pikler® approach is not a recipe to follow in a lock-step manner. A phrase coined by a participant at the San Francisco Pikler® Intensive, “Inspiration, not replication” resonated with my experience of observing the caregivers and children at Lóczy. It is a reminder of what Lóczy offers, without copying; valuable insights about the way the Lóczy children and their caregivers are together. My visits observing in the children’s groups at Lóczy profoundly moved me, in a visceral way, deeply imprinting in my psyche the well-being of the children and the utmost care in every gesture and word of their caregivers. It gave me a feeling of immense hope, like recovering something precious, previously thought to be lost. READ THE REST OF THE ARTICLE IN OUR JANUARY NEWSLETTER, PAGE 10.
“Playing, Activity, Thinking, Part I”
By Éva Kálló and Eszter Mózes, narrated by award winning journalist Victoria Looseleaf.
World renowned experts Eszter Mózes, clinical child psychologist and Director of the Lóczy Foundation for Children, and Éva Kálló, Pikler Pedagogue and Master Trainer, delve deep into the topic of play and cognition based on their 40 years of research, work with, and observations of young children at the Pikler Institute in Budapest, Hungary. In this film one observes how infants’ thoughts grow from their free movement through space and independent manipulation of objects. This free exploration and play creates a solid base for a child’s later abstract thinking and theorizing.
Through a practice of attentive observation Dr. Emmi Pikler (1902-1984) recognized the competence, creativity and ingenuity of these youngest humans by simply watching what they do as they play, socialize and move independently. Based on her observations she articulated an interdependent practice of care. Research and clinical observations suggest that the end result of caring for infants and toddlers using her approach of care and attention is the development of a mutually respectful relationship, the effects of which last through adulthood through building the child’s unique intelligence and self-confidence.
Available on our website: Pikler.org/store
$50 US, $65 International
May 22-26, 2017 (5 days)
Respectful Care and the Relationship with the Adult
During the course, we will discuss the importance of attentive and respectful physical care in addition to some less well known aspects of the Pikler® pedagogy, such as the child’s developing social behaviour, and the characteristics of respectful communication.
The course will underline the importance of the quality of daily care/caregiving interactions (diaper changing, dressing, nose wiping etc.) related to children forming their self-image and need for bonding. Participants will observe (analysing video footages of the Pikler® Institute) how infants and toddlers express their needs and how much they learn from the adult during these situations.
We shall also discuss the special elements of the parent-child relationship and the relationship between the child and the professional carer, educator or nurse.
- What children learn during diaper change
- Individualized care situation in the day-care: the quality of care
- Free movement on the changing table – a key for cooperation
- The journey of the child: from breastfeeding to autonomous mealtime
- Specific and difficult situations during feeding time
Fee for the course: 700 Euros / person / course (5 days)
The fee is only for the course instruction; we cannot provide participant’s accommodations, meals or airfare. The enrolment fee is the net amount; banking or wire transfer fees are to be charged to the applicant’s account. Applications are accepted in the order that the payments are received.
On behalf of PLUSA we would like to thank all of our contributors to our current Pikler® newsletter and for your interest in the Pikler® approach. Together, we are planting a seed of peace and hope for humanity. Happy reading!
Our Pikler Family is mourning the loss of beloved illustrator, colleague and friend, Klara Pap.
Klara Pap was the recipient of the 2016 Emmi Pikler Award for her valuable contributions to the Pikler® approach.
If you know about Dr. Pikler, you have seen the illustrations that accompany her writings. Klara Pap’s drawings of infants and young children have become key in describing Dr. Emmi Pikler’s work through her series of illustrations. Klara Pap worked closely with Dr. Pikler by sketching the natural progression of children’s gross motor development as well as the tender moments of care at Lóczy, the infants’ home in Budapest, Hungary.
Her memory lives on through her work, and she is deeply missed.
In honorable remembrance of Klara Pap,
The Board of Directors of Pikler/Lóczy USA – Agnes, Bev, Janet, Enid, Denise, Intisar, Johanna, Susan, Nicole, Gabrielle and Elsa
Thank you for being part of our Pikler family and for sharing our mission of caring for babies with respect. Together we can make our world a little bit kinder, one baby at a time.
Pikler/Lóczy USA is dedicated to supporting parents and professionals in the important mission of caring for young children with respect.
Emmi Pikler’s decades of research proved that a peaceful relationship between parent and child is formed through the daily tender moments of care.
From his first day of life, the child is always considered a partner during his caregiving routines. There is a dialogue that occurs and the baby begins to feel safe and secure.